It’s important you resonate with who I am before considering embarking on a journey together… let me introduce myself.
BE REMINDED THAT WE HAVE THE POWER TO CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE SOMETHING NEW,
VISIONARY AND BOLD AT ANY MOMENT, FOR OURSELVES AND OUR COMMUNITIES.
Growing up I had the world at my fingertips. Attending an excellence school for the arts; I majored in theatre whilst pursing modelling and fashion styling. An insufferable perfectionist, I was always trapped inside my own rigidity and ideas of “wrong and right.” Excelling at a young age, and finding myself in elitist groups, I could never quite grasp my own opportunities or potential. I always felt like a slave to the voice inside my mind that would tell me “you are not good enough.” Spiraling me invisibly into an internal war and engaging in self-destructive behaviours that were not known by anyone on the outside. At 16, and on the fringes of my own emotional, mental, spiritual and physical breakdown, my school principal called an intervention.
Diagnosed with anorexia nervosa, extreme amount of anxiety and disassociative tendencies, I was falling deeper and deeper into the dark. My extremely low body weight made me feel like I was walking through life in a haze; nothing was ever clear, and I never felt fully ‘there.’ Amazing opportunities were centimeters in front of me, yet I could never quite grasp them, because of my own inability to love myself.
Recovery was a long journey; being forced to look at aspects of myself at a young age, that I believe some people never face. I believe it when people say “you must know your demons, before you understand your angels.” Suffering liberated me, as I began to understand wholeheartedly that fear is not real; that love is the only true healer; and that we are the masters of our own destiny.
Inspired to make a difference in the world, awakening to the pain many of us feel daily, I founded my first organisation; The Rogue and Rouge Foundation. Focusing on education around mental and emotional health, alongside giving communities the tools and frameworks to build strong and connected structures. Within the first two years of founding the organisation, I spent over a year and a half living in a van travelling to 300 communities around Australia delivering workshops and presentations; through both the desert and the cities. This was far removed from my privileged upbringing. It was in the letting go of everything I knew, that I found freedom, that I found peace, that I first truly met me.
An article I wrote in reflection of my learnings is featured on the United Nations Website.
I discovered many things working with over 75,000 people in that time alone. Through all the stories I heard, there were many common themes, manifesting in different ways. I began to see our basic human needs were not dependent on our social class, financial situations, education, opportunities, or culture. I discovered that there is far more of what makes us the same than what separates us. Our primal need for acceptance and belonging, is the sole motivator in so many of our lives and we cannot move into operation from our potential unless we’ve discovered some sort of self-acceptance, and belonging in the world.
Upon returning, my team and I began writing programs based on our discoveries – that connection is the single most important thing we can learn. Instead of perceiving connection as a given, personally I believe, we need to begin seeing connection as a skill. Comprising of the following ingredients; understanding of vulnerability, expression, emotional awareness, conflict resolution and mindfulness.
I began to become an influential figure in the health space, being a leader of innovation and humbly accepted a role on the National Mental Health Commission as the youngest commissioner ever appointed by the Commonwealth. I believed that I could change the system from the inside, yet the more I worked within systems, the more I began to see systems for what they were. I started to understand that systems were not responsible for breeding apathy, like I once believed. It was in fact the humans within them, harboring an inability to take responsibility for change. Blaming the structures they worked within for everything, declaring “I can’t change things, because the system won’t allow it!”
The truth is, the systems aren’t real; the humans within the systems are the determinants of how things are. The agreed policies and procedures that made “the system” were created by people. Everything comes back to people, and their relationships to one another.
What I know, unarguably, is that change will never be effected until we, as individuals, master our internal worlds. It’s people’s lack of awareness that lead to poor decision making and ineffective processes and strategies. If we can master our internal world, we will then have a mastered external world.
To get to this place of self mastery, there is profound and crucial realisation:
That we choose everything.
That choice is the only thing that constructs our realities.
Work with me to begin awakening to the choice you have in each moment. Mastering your choice, and having a solid foundation in which to formulate your choices, you will begin reaching new levels of conscious awareness and mastery.
WE HAVE TWO WORLDS TO CONSIDER
The First: Our Internal World
Including; Awareness (Mastery of your Thought Processes, Values and Beliefs), Health (Emotional, Physical, Mental and Spiritual), Connectedness (Connection to your heart, your Higher-Knowing, Interpretation of Feelings)
The Second: Our External World
Including; (Your Purpose/Passion, Your Relationships (Determining Unhealthy and Healthy Relationships), Your Attachment to the External.